From: Doing What You Can Do
The Illusion of Control is all about our attempts and constant striving to re-arrange the world to fit our view of how things should be. Should is one of the most dangerous perceptions we can have. When we perceive things to be a certain way, and don't allow other possibilities or considerations, we often end up disappointed, frustrated, and in struggle.
It's like the person "stuck" in their miserable job - yearning to make the break and start their own business, but they never do. Why? Because the perception of safety is that a paycheck is guaranteed. When you were born, life didn't come with a money back guarantee.
Deep down, we all know nothing is certain. Except what exists inside us.
In reality, we see time and again that our perception for safety can keep us playing and thinking small. Ultimately, it keeps us from doing what we can do. And before we know it, that dream has died along with a big part of ourselves, in the satin lined coffin that we have decorated with our assumptions, beliefs, and insecurities.
Is your perception of safety holding you back?